Just as every year ends we make new goals for ourselves for the upcoming New Year and at the same time we may say that this WILL BE THE YEAR. Well the year of 2020… sure was THE YEAR! We all came across a deadly virus and our world feared in the unknown. Many people lost loved ones and friends, and unfortunately, it’s still happening to this day.
Never did I thought that I would experience something like this in my lifetime, and as our everyday lives changed overnight, I unfortunately saw so much hate and anger in our country. Hate towards the asian community and anger for being told to wear a mask. It’s truly sad to see our country so divided instead of coming together as ONE to beat this thing.
I also watched our medical field suffer and still in the frontlines of this all trying to beat it. They are fighting all of this head on and have been so brave at doing it. I have also seen delivery drivers and workers at the grocery stores working their asses off just to deliver and stock food on the self, but don’t get as much appreciation for doing it; even though people were panicking and stocking up on food and TOILET PAPER (SMH)!
It’s honestly been a crazy one….
But, as far as my family and I, we are all trying to stay as positive as we can. We honestly can’t control everything that is happening and going on in the world, so the only thing we can control is our lives and mental health.
I’m not saying we are always fine and dandy, we definitely had to make some hard decision this year since this all happened, but we try to control what we can control…
Our kids know exactly whats going on and how serious it is, and the understanding of why everything is being done.. but at the same time they are kids. They hate the fact that we have to wear masks everywhere we go, they hate that places they want to go and have fun at are closed, they hate that they can’t be at school, and they hate that we couldn’t be with all the family like normal. My husband and I also made the hard decision of removing our kids from their school that they’ve attended since they were 4 years old, and put them in a new school. Unfortunately, we were not comfortable with paying a tuition fee for their school when schooling was being done at home. So, we did have them finish out the school year, but come August for 2020-2021, they did start a new school. Now, I’m not sure where this road is going to lead us and if we’ll be able to place them back at their old school again, but we are taking it one day at a time. We were lucky enough though to have them start in a brand new school that just opened up this Fall. So every student at this school is new, which made things a lot easier for the kids.
Another thing that changed was my husbands work. When it got really bad here, he didn’t work for about 5 months. He has now returned back to work since I believe August, but only at Delta Airlines. Bobby has many different jobs that are scheduled based on when he wants to work and when it’s available, but those other jobs that he has, he’s still not back to work; which is a HUGE part of our his normal income. Which means income has definitely changed.
Another big part is that we just bought a home. We worked so dang hard for this house and we obviously don’t want to lose it. Lucky enough, our mortgage company has been working with us on our mortgage payments, which has been amazing and has helped so much!
I also have a much more appreciation of teachers. Never before did I know what teachers deal with on a daily basis. I truly give them all the credit and applause them for what they do. I would say becoming a ‘somewhat’ teacher was probably the most challenging thing for me throughout this whole process. I honestly had some really awful and stressful days because of it, but as the days and weeks go on, we are starting to get into a rhythm and it’s becoming a lot less stressful. Thank goodness!
However, with all these new challenges we face now a days, I do have to say though that I am in a way thankful that this all happened. It gave my kids more time with us off as a family. As much as we drove each other crazy, we also made the best of it. We went on many off-road adventures together, had so many backyard movie nights, and just spent quality time together. I never had as much time with my parents in 1 year as my kids have experienced this year and honestly this will probably never happen again; so I’m truly thankful for it.
Not only have we been spending so much time with family, we also been enjoying our home. When becoming new homeowners, you typically don’t get much time to truly enjoy your home because you are constantly working to make sure all the bills and mortgage is paid for… well I feel like Bobby and I really got to enjoy our home together here. We both worked on many parts of our home together during this pandemic, like doing our entire backyard by ourselves! *pat on the back*
So what is one thing I take from all of this?
I would say, to never take anything for granted. You truly don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow and instantly your life can change. Now that might be for the better or for the worse, so enjoy the moment your in. You will never hear me say I’m so glad 2020 is over with. I am thankful that this gave us the opportunity to be with each other more, and that I will never take for granted or wish differently!
However, I do hope 2021 will be a year of better. I hope to see this virus ease up, and I hope to see our lives getting somewhat back to ‘normal’. I also hope to see more empathy in people, as I feel like so many humans now a days lost that touch. But as far as wishing this year away… all I can say is thank you.